Learn How To Get A Last-Minute Date For Valentine’s Day! by Joe Reid Kirby III
‘Tis the season of freely expressing your love and joy — how EXCITING! Or, is it not for you? Let me guess … you don’t have a date for this special day? Well, let’s fix that shall we:
As a newly, happily married man the concept of Valentine’s Day is an every day reality for my wife and I — even from 3,000 miles away (two more weeks time will soon change that though). Valentine’s Day to me is simply an overly-hyped marketing scheme designed to play on people’s emotions in order to peddle everyday products at an inflated cost. Let me not be a negative-Nancy here though (putting my technically sound sense away for now & blowing the dust off of my secret LOVE potions), and let’s get you a date!
According to numerology, the number 6 is associated with love, passion, and sex; so here are my 6 tips for getting a last-minute date for Valentine’s Day 2017:
1.) Are you open to the idea of LOVE? ❤️
This is a serious question to ask yourself, before going out and wasting your precious time and the valuable time of others. After all, the point of dating should be accompanied by the intent of possibly falling head-over-toes for your date, correct? If not, it’s probably best to book a Netflix and chill type of night with your lonesome self. Assuming your heart is in it for the extraordinary possibility of LOVE, I digress, and encourage you to wear your heart proudly on your sleeve today — you can always change your shirt tomorrow.
2.) Who do you have in mind? 👀
As you’re reading the words of this article, I’m almost certain a special someone(s) has popped into your mind a few times already. Great! Write their name(s) down somewhere — including how you can go about contacting them (whether by phone or social media); along with a short note explaining why you’d very much enjoy going on date with that incredible human being. Now I’m no shallow individual; however, I must forewarn you to make your decision based on the mutual engagement of the one you most admire. I say that as insurance, for the fact that who you have in mind may not have you in theirs. If we’re talking about getting you a date tonight, it probably needs to be with someone you’ve conversed with this year. By converse, I mean you’ve engaged in some form of mutual contact, whether that be: talking, texting, instant messaging, or liking/commenting on each other’s posts.
3.) Make the Call! 📲
Whether you’re a guy or girl doesn’t matter here, because LOVE has no gender and knows-not societies’ ridiculous standards. To get to the point, if you like someone, let them know! Only then can a date transmute from a thought to a thing. Don’t go another day wishing you had the guts to be happy with who could turn out to be the LOVE of your life. Had I not come right out and told my wife that I liked her, she more than likely wouldn’t be my wife today (especially because of how quiet & shy she is) — what a scary thought that is. On the other hand, if the mother of my two beyond-beautiful children had not gone out of her way to reach me through mutual friends, my two greatest gifts in life wouldn’t even exist — even a scarier thing to think of. Do you catch my drift? If so, it’s time for a mental shift. Pick up the phone and explore your infinite possibilities! Use the notes you wrote down in the second tip to assist you in letting the person(s) you’re feeling know how you truly feel.
4.) Anxiety is NOT invited. 🕑
Assuming you didn’t make the call, and instead opted to instant message or text, adhere to the title of my forth tip. Don’t stress over the response time. Don’t be anxious about the answer. Relax. You’ve just gotten a huge deal off of your chest. Don’t reward yourself by adding a heavier weight to your shoulders (that is unless you’re exercising while you’re reading this … in that case, go heavy or go home!). The time will pass. The answer will come. In the meantime, find something productive to do. Read a book. Tell a friend what you’ve just done. Write down suggestions of where to go and fun things to do, in case your date is as ill-prepared as you. Or, if your confidence is where it should be, go ahead and start getting yourself mentally and physically set for your date!
5.) Compromise is Key. 🤝
You’ve come too far to mess everything up now, so chill. Work in conjunction with your date to conjure up ideas for a night you’d both enjoy. Together, you can figure out the time you’re meeting up; the location(s) of the date; the method of transportation you’ll be employing; etc. Try not to over-plan every minute detail however, as you want the night to flow smooth and naturally. Be sure, yet easy to work with.
6.) A date is a gift to yourself — be present! 📵
Empty your thoughts (especially any lingering negative ones) on a piece of paper (or within the notes of your phone) and SILENCE YOUR DAMN PHONE (you’re not dating if you’re distracted), before you come face-to-face with your date. Coming into an awkward situation (yes, the beginning may be a bit awkward if this is your first date together) with a clear and open mind will almost always ensure that an instant connection is made, if it’s meant to be (don’t ask … let’s just call it ‘science’). Smile; make eye-contact; and be genuinely interested in learning more about the soul in front of you.
If you follow these 6 tips to the absolute best of your ability, I can almost guarantee that you’ll have an extraordinary date this Valentine’s Day! Have fun! Be safe. Enjoy life!
P.S. I’m very interested in hearing your Valentine’s Day stories, whether deemed disaster or destiny. So feel free to message me through the Contact Kirby page of my site, to share your juicy details! Also, don’t forget to LIKE & SHARE this article if you enjoyed it; & please SUBSCRIBE if you’d like to receive all of my new posts via email!
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